For the next few days we're going to be talking about Ephesians 5:22-33 and Titus 2:3-5. Yesterday we briefly talked about the first thing Paul calls wives to do: submit to our husbands.
Today, on our half way mark, we're going to talk about the second piece Paul mentions (almost like an afterthought) in verse 33, "... and let the wife see that she respects her husband."
I'm not going to spend a lot of time talking about this. I'm going to let Matt Walsh explain why husbands don't have to earn your respect, and I agree with him 100%.
Before reading it remember what I told you on day 18, to get over what you think YOU deserve? God is asking you to respect your husband. It doesn't say anything about "only if he deserves it." No. He's telling you to DO it. And that desire to be respected is so deeply ingrained in men that studies have shown if they feel respected, they feel loved. To them, respect and love are so similar that there's little difference between the two. (Source: For Women Only)
Here's a list of ways that do not show you respect your husband:
- Bashing him to your friends.
- Bashing him on Facebook.
- Making fun of him.
- Harboring bitter resentment.
- Disgracing him.
- Speak rudely to him.
- Keep record of all his wrongs.
- Not listening when he speaks.
- Complaining about him.
- Grumbling under your breath.
Here's a list of ways that DO show you respect your husband:
- Praising him.
- Telling him you're proud of him for _____.
- Thanking him for _____.
- Brag about him to your friends.
- Does not retaliate.
- Selflessly serving his needs, because you know he'd appreciate it.
If you can add to the list, by all means, add to it. Your task for the day is to read Matt Walsh's blog and let the idea that your husband doesn't have to earn your respect challenge you and CHANGE your heart.
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